Children and social media: It can be a thorny issue for many parents. There is a common conflict. On the one hand, if you let your child engage in social media they can feel part of their friendship group and won’t feel left out or left behind, whilst on the other...
Phone Addiction – Are We Losing the Art of Being Able to be With Ourselves?
At a comedy show recently I sat in my seat during the interval and studied the art deco theatre. I was admiring the intricate ceiling and the décor and looked across from where I was sitting to see three people engrossed in their phones. They seemed oblivious to the...
Social Media Anxiety and How To Manage It
Social media can be a fantastic way of keeping in touch with people and a source of inspiration, support, and connection to wider conversations online. It can also link us to people we would otherwise not have access to, for example, brides and grooms who’ve invited...
Social Media Anxiety
This is the first in a series I’m writing about social media. Over recent years, and especially since the pandemic social media has become more prevalent in our lives. Benefits of Social Media There are fantastic sides to social media like the ability to keep in touch...
Your First Therapy Session
This is the time of year when it’s common for people to think about starting therapy. You may have decided that you want to approach a therapist and may have contacted someone and made a date for an initial consultation. But then the reality of having the first...
Is Therapy For Me?
Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year can be difficult times for many people. We spend the holiday with family in a more intense way than normal and this can reveal strains, tensions and ruptures that we normally overlook or don’t like to admit in our daily lives....
2022 Another New Year Another New Normal
2022 looks set to be another unique year. Here in the UK, covidwise, we start the year arguably in a better place than 2021. As Omicron continues, it’s becoming the new normal to take a lateral flow test before meeting family and friends. But many of us are still...
How To Survive Christmas 2021
Christmas can be challenging for many people but this year especially it will be difficult for most of us one way or another. We may have to make do with phone and video calls to stay in touch with people who we would normally be with. We may be posting presents...
Perfectionist
Are You A Perfectionist? Do you have very high standards? Do you find yourself putting yourself under pressure to look as good as you possibly can? Work as hard as you possibly can? Do you have an incredibly strict fitness regime? Be the perfect parent? Do...
Decision Making from Cupid and Psyche
Whilst visiting Florence a few years ago I saw many beautiful works of art in the Uffizi Museum. However, I was struck by one sculpture in particular: Cupid and Psyche. As well as the intricateness of the piece I was also moved by the entwining of the figures and...
FOMO
The last 18 months have changed many of us in ways we would never have thought. We may find ourselves not wanting to join in social and group activities. We may not feel as sociable as we once did. This is not surprising after not being allowed to get together with...
How To Manage Stress
The last 16 months have impacted us in multiple ways. Stress may have crept in quietly and eroded away our resilience or crashed in at times unannounced and knocked us off-kilter. We all need a certain amount of stress in our daily lives to get us out of bed in the...
How to survive the summer holidays
Are you dreading the summer holidays? Or excited for them to start? Or maybe you have mixed feelings about them. Here are some ideas to make the most of the break Don't over plan. Firstly, children need downtime as much as adults, especially at the beginning and...
Working with the Unconscious in Psychotherapy
The uniqueness of the psychoanalytic model of psychotherapy is that we work with the unconscious. But what does this mean? What exactly is the unconscious? What is the Unconscious? Practically speaking, in the field of psychotherapy, the unconscious is the part...
How To manage uncertainty
It’s been difficult for many of us over the last year. So many changes here in the UK. At times it felt like change was the new normal, in fact, change was the constant. As restrictions are lifted there are more shifting sands, because there’s yet more uncertainty...
Difficult Mother’s Day Ahead?
Mother's Day means different things for all of us. It can conjure up wonderful images and memories of young children making cute cards, or posies of garden flowers or precovid family lunches with 3 or 4 generations present. This year Mother’s Day will be like no...
Are You Ready To Date Again?
Fed up being single? Feeling lonely when you are single is common for many people. In fact, it’s normal at times. Do you find yourself alone and lacking compared to your doubled friends’ evenings together? Do you wish you also had someone to go running with, lie in...
How to Manage Anxiety – in the Coronavirus Pandemic
Anxiety has risen exponentially since the beginning of the coronavirus pandemic and at times it can feel overwhelming. Everyone needs a certain amount of stress to get stuff done but when this anxiety becomes unmanageable, we need to act. If you are suffering from one...
Christmas in the Time of Covid
The festive season can be challenging for many people. However this year especially, it will be difficult for most of us one way or another. We will have to make do with phone and video calls to stay in touch with people who we would normally be with. We will be...
Being Made Redundant
Losing our job or business can be devastating. I am reminded of a poignant part of the film The Full Monty when we see the redundant manager of the steel works, Gerald, getting ready for work each morning. He was pretending to his wife that nothing has changed...

The Art of Self Soothing
There is so much going on in the world now. It’s hard watching the news, in fact I am more likely to just quickly check a news ap than I am to watch the news in real time. Many people I speak to are...

Interpreting Dreams
In the last of my series on dreaming we look at common images and symbols in dream interpretation. I love working with the unconscious and find dreams fascinating. We can think of them as metaphors...

Nightmares and Night terrors
It seems difficult for people to talk about their nightmares. Even if the person has told me during their assessment that they suffer from nightmares, I often find people don’t talk about them in...

Types of dreams
Types of Dreams Every dream is as unique as the dreamer, but there are specific types of dreamsthat most commonly find their way into my consulting room. These are daydreams, vivid dreams, recurring...

Dream Journaling
How To Remember Your Dreams I often work with people who dream frequently and are interested in their dreams. Many suffer from nightmares and night terrors which they remember vividly. I will be...

Dreaming
Photography by Gregory Pappas on UnsplashPsychotherapy and Dreams During an initial consultation with a potential client, I often ask about their dreams. Do they dream regularly? Do they have...

Time for a Mindset Spring Clean
March is a hopeful month. Officially the first month of spring with emerging colour, bulbs bravely shooting through the ground and trees starting to sprout buds. A couple of years ago in the UK we...

Cyber Bullying
Cyber Bullying When researching this subject, I was shocked to see the number of people who had taken their lives due to cyber bullying and sextortion. Between March 2019 and March 2020 19% or one...

Male Influencers
The MeToo movement has been wonderful for women’s rights and furthering awareness of sexual harassment and abuse. I know very few women who haven’t experienced sexual harassment at some point in...

What’s Your Online Persona?
Who Do You Think You Are? How Do You Want To Come Across Online? We all know someone who exaggerates their life online – we see the ‘official’ glitzy positive image they put on social media. For...
Striking the Balance – Parenting Children on Social Media
Children and social media: It can be a thorny issue for many parents. There is a common conflict. On the one hand, if you let your child engage in social media they can feel part of their friendship group and won’t feel left out or left behind, whilst on the other...
Phone Addiction – Are We Losing the Art of Being Able to be With Ourselves?
At a comedy show recently I sat in my seat during the interval and studied the art deco theatre. I was admiring the intricate ceiling and the décor and looked across from where I was sitting to see three people engrossed in their phones. They seemed oblivious to the...
Social Media Anxiety and How To Manage It
Social media can be a fantastic way of keeping in touch with people and a source of inspiration, support, and connection to wider conversations online. It can also link us to people we would otherwise not have access to, for example, brides and grooms who’ve invited...
Social Media Anxiety
This is the first in a series I’m writing about social media. Over recent years, and especially since the pandemic social media has become more prevalent in our lives. Benefits of Social Media There are fantastic sides to social media like the ability to keep in touch...
Your First Therapy Session
This is the time of year when it’s common for people to think about starting therapy. You may have decided that you want to approach a therapist and may have contacted someone and made a date for an initial consultation. But then the reality of having the first...
Is Therapy For Me?
Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year can be difficult times for many people. We spend the holiday with family in a more intense way than normal and this can reveal strains, tensions and ruptures that we normally overlook or don’t like to admit in our daily lives....
2022 Another New Year Another New Normal
2022 looks set to be another unique year. Here in the UK, covidwise, we start the year arguably in a better place than 2021. As Omicron continues, it’s becoming the new normal to take a lateral flow test before meeting family and friends. But many of us are still...
How To Survive Christmas 2021
Christmas can be challenging for many people but this year especially it will be difficult for most of us one way or another. We may have to make do with phone and video calls to stay in touch with people who we would normally be with. We may be posting presents...
Perfectionist
Are You A Perfectionist? Do you have very high standards? Do you find yourself putting yourself under pressure to look as good as you possibly can? Work as hard as you possibly can? Do you have an incredibly strict fitness regime? Be the perfect parent? Do...
Decision Making from Cupid and Psyche
Whilst visiting Florence a few years ago I saw many beautiful works of art in the Uffizi Museum. However, I was struck by one sculpture in particular: Cupid and Psyche. As well as the intricateness of the piece I was also moved by the entwining of the figures and...
FOMO
The last 18 months have changed many of us in ways we would never have thought. We may find ourselves not wanting to join in social and group activities. We may not feel as sociable as we once did. This is not surprising after not being allowed to get together with...
How To Manage Stress
The last 16 months have impacted us in multiple ways. Stress may have crept in quietly and eroded away our resilience or crashed in at times unannounced and knocked us off-kilter. We all need a certain amount of stress in our daily lives to get us out of bed in the...
How to survive the summer holidays
Are you dreading the summer holidays? Or excited for them to start? Or maybe you have mixed feelings about them. Here are some ideas to make the most of the break Don't over plan. Firstly, children need downtime as much as adults, especially at the beginning and...
Working with the Unconscious in Psychotherapy
The uniqueness of the psychoanalytic model of psychotherapy is that we work with the unconscious. But what does this mean? What exactly is the unconscious? What is the Unconscious? Practically speaking, in the field of psychotherapy, the unconscious is the part...
How To manage uncertainty
It’s been difficult for many of us over the last year. So many changes here in the UK. At times it felt like change was the new normal, in fact, change was the constant. As restrictions are lifted there are more shifting sands, because there’s yet more uncertainty...
Difficult Mother’s Day Ahead?
Mother's Day means different things for all of us. It can conjure up wonderful images and memories of young children making cute cards, or posies of garden flowers or precovid family lunches with 3 or 4 generations present. This year Mother’s Day will be like no...
Are You Ready To Date Again?
Fed up being single? Feeling lonely when you are single is common for many people. In fact, it’s normal at times. Do you find yourself alone and lacking compared to your doubled friends’ evenings together? Do you wish you also had someone to go running with, lie in...
How to Manage Anxiety – in the Coronavirus Pandemic
Anxiety has risen exponentially since the beginning of the coronavirus pandemic and at times it can feel overwhelming. Everyone needs a certain amount of stress to get stuff done but when this anxiety becomes unmanageable, we need to act. If you are suffering from one...
Christmas in the Time of Covid
The festive season can be challenging for many people. However this year especially, it will be difficult for most of us one way or another. We will have to make do with phone and video calls to stay in touch with people who we would normally be with. We will be...
Being Made Redundant
Losing our job or business can be devastating. I am reminded of a poignant part of the film The Full Monty when we see the redundant manager of the steel works, Gerald, getting ready for work each morning. He was pretending to his wife that nothing has changed...
